Gratitude in the Rubble
Finding gratitude after church hurt doesn’t mean ignoring the pain. Make room for anger, grief, and joy while noticing one good thing in the rubble. ...more
Gratitude ,What DID Jesus DO?
October 30, 2026•6 min read
When the Apology Never Comes
When those who caused church hurt move on without apologizing, how do we reconcile grace with accountability and begin rebuilding without their repentance? ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
October 23, 2026•7 min read
Why Is It So Hard to Admit We’re Wrong?
Why is admitting we're wrong so difficult? Explore how performance-based Christianity fuels perfectionism, protects appearances, and makes confession feel dangerous. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
October 15, 2026•8 min read
When the Emphasis is on the Wrong Syllable
When church rules, theology, and technicalities overshadow people, we miss what Jesus emphasized: justice, mercy, faithfulness, and the fruit we produce. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
October 07, 2026•8 min read
What If We’re Measuring Church Health Wrong?
What if church growth isn’t the same as church health? Let’s ask better questions about power, accountability, leadership, safety, and healthy systems. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
September 30, 2026•10 min read
When Protecting the Pastor Becomes More Important Than Protecting People
When churches protect pastors from accountability, harmed people often pay the cost. A look at grace, repentance, integrity, and pastoral leadership. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
September 22, 2026•10 min read
When Bad Theology Makes Abuse Easier
How bad theology can shift responsibility, enable abuse, protect harmful systems, and keep people trapped in cycles of silence, fear, and endurance. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
September 16, 2026•9 min read
Why Did This Feel So Familiar?
Why did Death of a Pastor’s Wife feel so familiar to so many exvangelicals? A reflection on harmful theology, charismatic leadership, church accountability, and the systems that allow spiritual abuse ... ...more
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September 09, 2026•10 min read
Paying Attention to the Fruit
After church hurt, how do you navigate relationships with the people who stayed? Learn how Jesus' teaching on fruit offers wisdom for discerning safe, healthy relationships. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
July 01, 2026•9 min read
The Language We Didn't Have
Many of us learned the language of church before we learned the language of healthy relationships. Discover how understanding spiritual abuse and religious trauma can help us tell the truth about our ... ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
June 23, 2026•9 min read
Deconstruction is not Destruction
Many people confuse deconstruction with destruction, but they're not the same thing. Through a childhood lesson in the kitchen and a reflection on faith, church hurt, and belonging, this article explo... ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
June 16, 2026•8 min read
You Can Go Back. But Should You?
When church hurt leaves you feeling spiritually homeless, the question isn't whether you can go back—it's whether you should. A reflection on spiritual abuse, the wilderness, and learning to trust God... ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
June 05, 2026•8 min read
No Meal Trains for Church Hurt
Church hurt carries a grief few people recognize. Exploring disenfranchised grief, Jesus in Gethsemane, and healing after betrayal. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
May 21, 2026•10 min read
When the Table is Gone
An exploration of betrayal, church hurt, forgiveness, boundaries, and healing. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
May 13, 2026•13 min read
The Space Between Tables
A reflective essay on leaving familiar faith spaces, navigating the tension of “in-between,” and learning the difference between earned belonging and true belonging. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
April 21, 2026•6 min read
The Tables Jesus Sat At...And the Ones He Flipped
A reflective look at the tables Jesus sat at and the ones He flipped, exploring access, belonging, and what it means to follow Him in a complicated faith landscape. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
April 07, 2026•7 min read
A Gentler Lent
A gentle invitation into Lent for those feeling overwhelmed and unanchored. Explore a slower, calmer 47-day devotional journey focused on presence, reflection, and steady faith in chaotic times. ...more
What DID Jesus DO?
February 16, 2026•3 min read
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