The Unraveling

When my daughter, Kate, traveled to Ireland last summer, she brought home a soft green cardigan from a local market.

I love everything about it: the rich olive hue, the ornate brown buttons, the perfectly relaxed fit.

But there’s one thing I don’t love—the loose strand of yarn sticking up at the shoulder.

The first time I noticed it, I resisted the instinct to pull. I knew better. One tug could unravel the entire thing.

Funny how that same instinct shows up in life.

Because sweaters aren’t the only things that fall apart when a single thread gets tugged.

My faith deconstruction started that way. Quietly. Gently. Just one thread. One question. One moment where I dared to pull.

I didn’t plan to unravel my entire belief system. I didn’t set out to burn down my theology. I just asked a question no one wanted to answer.

And once the unraveling started, there was no stopping it.
For me, the result was devastating at first—an implosion of my life, my marriage, my faith.

But what felt like destruction became the catalyst for healing.

Your Thread Might Be Different—But You’re Not Alone

In Chapter 3 of Breathing Again, I tell the story of my unraveling. How one small tug led to everything I thought I believed coming undone. How I had to face the wreckage before I could rebuild.

Some of us pull a thread. Others survive a full-blown explosion. Either way, the end result is the same:
We’re left staring at the ashes, wondering if anything can be saved.

But here’s the truth I discovered—and the one I want to pass on to you:
God isn’t afraid of our unraveling. And He doesn’t abandon us in the wreckage.

If You’ve Pulled a Thread and Everything’s Coming Apart…

You’re not crazy.
You’re not alone.
And you’re not beyond repair.

You’re just at the beginning of something holy.

Breathing Again was written for this exact moment. If you’re in the thick of faith deconstruction and longing to breathe again—free from shame, free from fear, free from toxic theology—this book is for you.

👉 Grab your copy today and take the next brave step toward healing.
👉 Or start by reading the blog series that walks through each chapter.

Let’s pull the right threads together—and finally rebuild something honest, whole, and rooted in grace.