Friend, if you find yourself in a seemingly impossible financial situation today, I see you. My heart breaks for you. I pray you release your finances and your hopelessness to God today, you seek guidance from an expert to help you create a plan, and you can learn the same financial intelligence I learned. There is light at the end of the tunnel, I promise.
We all process and deal with trauma differently. I’m sure most of us have heard of the flight, fight, or freeze response. I seem to have the “micro-manage every detail of the trauma” response. So far, I haven’t been able to find that in a textbook anywhere. It only makes sense, then, that when I knew trauma and tragedy were striking our family again that I automatically shifted into that response. I’ve spent the last several days pulling out decor, tablescapes, and candles–because I can’t have my grandma’s wake look shabby! I spent last night arranging 24 vases of flowers in Grandma’s favorite colors. I’ve ordered all the food, organized the three different playlists, staffed the wake, and written the eulogy. Because that’s how my brain works, and it’s how I respond to trauma. N0t everyone responds this way, though. We’re all different, and that doesn’t make one of us right or anyone else wrong.
Just as the trees have to shed their leaves in order to gain new ones, sometimes we have to shed parts of ourselves to grow into something bigger and more beautiful.
How we walk with the broken speaks louder than how we sit with the great.